Trying to play with a friend (Xbox) but they will not show up in any servers no matter how many times I restart the game, turn on/off the crossplay setting to reset it and have scrolled through the menu for a while trying to figure this out. 
 

The servers on my ps4 all show up as “Valencia, Media, Rulupee etc.” while my Xbox friends servers are all numbered “Valencia -1&-2 etc” not sure if that’s an issue and/or how to fix it either

any suggestions?